I couldn't explain it.
But I felt it:
The energy shift.
When they walked in:
The room got:
Heavier.
My body knew:
Before my brain did.
What the Energy Shift Felt Like
Around Them:
- Tense
- On edge
- Walking on eggshells
- Anxious
- Drained
- Small
Away From Them:
- Light
- Free
- Calm
- Myself
- Energized
- Expansive
The contrast:
Said everything.
The Signs My Body Gave Me
My Chest Would Tighten
When they texted.
When they called.
When I saw their name.
My body:
Preparing:
For impact.
I'd Hold My Breath
Around them.
Without realizing.
Like I was:
Bracing.
My Shoulders Would Tense
The moment:
They arrived.
Relaxing:
Only when:
They left.
I'd Feel Exhausted
After every interaction.
Not:
The good kind:
Of tired.
The:
Drained.
Depleted.
Empty.
What I Told Myself
"I'm just stressed."
"I'm overthinking."
"I'm being too sensitive."
Ignoring:
What my body:
Was screaming.
When I Finally Listened
Friend: "How do you feel around them?"
Me: "I don't know. Fine?"
Her: "Your whole body just tensed up when I asked that."
I hadn't noticed.
But she was right.
The Different Energy Shifts
With Toxic People:
Energy:
- Drains
- Tenses
- Constricts
- Heavies
- Depletes
With Healthy People:
Energy:
- Flows
- Relaxes
- Expands
- Lightens
- Replenishes
Your body knows.
The Test
I paid attention:
To how I felt:
- Before seeing them
- During
- After
Before:
Anxious.
Dreading it.
During:
Tense.
Performing.
Exhausted.
After:
Depleted.
Relieved it was over.
Needing days to recover.
That:
Was my answer.
What Changed When I Left
The energy shift:
Reversed.
I went from:
Constantly drained:
To:
Constantly light.
My body:
Relaxed.
For the first time:
In years.
If Your Body Is Telling You Something
Listen.
The energy shift:
Never lies.
Your body knows:
Before your brain:
Catches up.
About 4Angles: Your body knows who's good for you. If you feel drained, tense, and heavy around someone—that's your answer. The energy shift never lies.
Last updated: November 2, 2025