You think:
If I just:
- Love them enough
- Am patient enough
- Show them enough
- Support them enough
They'll change.
They won't.
The Hard Truth
People change:
When they want to.
Not:
When you want them to.
Your love:
Can't force:
Their growth.
What Actually Happens
You:
- Give more
- Love harder
- Wait longer
- Hope desperately
They:
- Stay the same
- Take advantage
- Make promises
- Don't follow through
You exhaust yourself:
Trying to love:
Someone into being:
Who they're not.
When People Actually Change
Not:
Because you loved them.
But:
Because they:
- Hit rock bottom
- Lost something important
- Decided for themselves
- Were ready
Change is:
Internal.
Not:
Motivated by:
Your love.
What to Do Instead
Love them:
As they are.
Or:
Leave.
Don't stay:
Hoping:
They'll become:
Someone different.
That's not love.
That's:
Loving their potential.
And potential:
Isn't a person.
About 4Angles: You can't love someone into changing—people change when they're ready, not when you need them to. Accept them as-is or leave.
Last updated: November 2, 2025