You can't fix:
The broken person.
The emotionally unavailable person.
The narcissist.
The person who isn't ready.
You can't.
Why We Try
Because:
We think:
If we just:
- Love them enough
- Show them enough
- Be patient enough
- Support them enough
They'll heal.
They won't.
Not from you.
The Truth
People heal:
When they decide to.
Not:
When you want them to.
You can:
- Be supportive
- Encourage therapy
- Set boundaries
But you can't:
Do the work:
For them.
What Happens When You Try
You:
- Exhaust yourself
- Lose yourself
- Enable them
- Get hurt repeatedly
They:
- Stay the same
- Take advantage
- Blame you
- Don't grow
Because:
Change:
Comes from within.
Not:
From you.
What to Do Instead
Support:
If they're actively working.
Leave:
If they're not.
You're not:
A rehabilitation center.
You're:
A person.
With needs.
And limits.
Protect them.
About 4Angles: You can't fix people—they fix themselves when they're ready. Stop exhausting yourself trying to heal someone who isn't doing the work.
Last updated: November 2, 2025