You see a red flag:
You think:
"It's not that bad."
"Everyone has flaws."
"Maybe it'll get better."
It won't.
The Truth About Red Flags
They don't:
- Get better
- Go away
- Shrink
- Disappear with time
They:
Get bigger.
Until:
You can't ignore them anymore.
What You're Seeing
Date three:
Rude to waiter.
"Just having a bad day."
Month three:
Rude to you.
Year three:
Emotionally abusive.
The red flag:
Was there:
From the start.
Common Red Flags
- How they treat service workers
- How they talk about exes
- Jealousy early on
- Love bombing
- Inconsistency
- No accountability
- Making you feel crazy
Don't ignore them.
What to Do
See a red flag?
Address it:
Or leave.
Don't:
- Ignore it
- Make excuses
- Wait for it to change
- Hope they'll grow
Red flags:
Are information.
Use it.
About 4Angles: Red flags don't disappear—they get bigger. What you excuse at the beginning becomes your reality later. Trust them the first time.
Last updated: November 2, 2025