Maya Angelou said it:
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."
She was right.
The Pattern
They show you:
- How they treat others
- How they handle conflict
- How they respond to boundaries
- How they act under pressure
- Who they really are
You think:
"But maybe with me, they'll be different."
They won't.
What People Show You
How They Treat Service Workers
Is how:
They'll eventually:
Treat you.
How They Talk About Exes
Is how:
They'll talk about you:
When it's over.
How They Handle Small Conflicts
Is how:
They'll handle:
Big ones.
How They Respond to Your Boundaries
Is whether:
They respect you.
Stop Waiting
For the fifth time:
To believe:
What they showed you:
The first.
Patterns:
Are information.
Use it.
About 4Angles: People show you who they are—through actions, patterns, and how they treat others. Believe them the first time, not the fifth.
Last updated: November 2, 2025